Idealism vs. Realism

There comes a time when you have to stop romanticizing about the idea of things and face the harsh reality of tried valid facts.

Most people get caught up in the idea of situations instead of honestly realizing, registering, and understanding the truth of what’s really real with what substance is actually going on. One of the hardest trials in life is just allowing yourself to be who you really are, right then, right now, and right that instant, instead of feigning the idea you’ve created in your mind of how you want to be perceived.

Yes, people have theories about ‘you have to act like who you want to be, to be the person you want to become’, but that’s what acting is- pretending. I don’t necessarily believe we have full control over who we end up becoming psychologically, we only have control over the externally tangible factors in our lives. But your personality traits and characteristics are all of your own primordial and cosmic make up honed through time and environment. Whatever happens just happens.

And yes, there is also a difference between self-improvement and denial. The difference is heightened and continuous tried awareness. (hey but what do I know? haha, I’m just rambling :D ) But I digress and that’s another story for another time.

Anyway, it takes real bravery to just be the quirky, weird person you know you truly are. Everyone is made differently.

But back to the topic at hand. It’s easy to be more in love with the idea of things, than understanding what’s really right in front of your face. Ideas spurn imagination, inspiration, and hope- they’re part of the beautiful things in life. It’s more preferable to want life to be beautiful all the time, but that also causes the mind to run away with ideas. And then that’s where reality and fantasy play in, but again lol, I digress haha.

In life, you have to be more logical and pragmatic. You have to be able to separate the two or else you don’t have a chance in hell of coming out alive the way you want to come out. It’s our lives and up to us for the taking. It’s whether or not we have the courage to rise up to the challenge and actually allow yourself to literally embrace the things we fear the most- with full vulnerability and conviction. To actively allow yourself to feel something and live life for what it really is rather than allow the bubble of self-preserved ideas to shield you from life. To actively participate with not just your mind but through fully committed action as well. The only constant in life is that everything is in fact, inconstant.

It’s easy to get lost in your ideas because they create a protective layer, a cushioned space so you don’t have to actively take any risk.

And it’s easier to passively have an idea than it is to execute an active strategic plan. But life is just as multifaceted and complicated as people are and the wheel never stops turning.

I think I’ve finally realized I may in fact be more of a full fledged realist than the idealist I always thought I was. Life is all about what you do with it. Everything is personal. It’s your own life, so why shouldn’t everything be personal? In this case, realism always wins out.